Relationship Therapy
How I Work —
I use approaches informed by Emotionally Focused Therapy and the Gottman Method. What that means in practice is that we slow things down enough to look at what is actually happening underneath the conflict, what each partner is trying to say that is not landing, and what each person needs in order to feel safe enough to actually connect.
The goal is not to stop fighting. The goal is to understand what the fighting is about, so that you can get to what is underneath it.
I will work with both of you, which means I am not on anyone's side and I am on both of your sides at the same time. My job is to hold the relationship, not just the individuals in it.
Couples tend to get the most out of this work when we meet weekly, particularly at the start. Biweekly sessions can work once things have stabilized, but early on the consistency matters. Progress in couples work is fragile without it.
Relationship Intensives —
Some relationships need to move faster than weekly sessions allow. Maybe there has been a rupture that needs immediate attention. Maybe you are in the middle of a decision and need space to work through it without waiting a week between sessions. Maybe you want to use a concentrated block of time to go deeper than a standard session makes possible.
Relationship intensives are extended sessions, typically a half day or full day, designed for exactly that. They can be used as a standalone experience or as a way to accelerate or reset an ongoing therapeutic process.
If an intensive feels like the right fit, bring it up when you reach out and we can talk through what that would look like for you specifically.
The Details —
Couples sessions are $325. Sessions are 50 minutes and held via telehealth throughout California.
I do not accept insurance. I am happy to provide a superbill for potential out-of-network reimbursement.
I offer a free 15-minute consultation to get a sense of fit before we begin. Both partners are welcome on that call.
Most couples arrive in therapy after a version of the same argument has happened enough times that one or both of them has started to wonder if something is actually wrong. Not just with the relationship. With whether the relationship can change.
The argument is rarely about what it looks like on the surface. It is about feeling unseen, or unsafe, or like you have been trying to get through to someone who cannot quite hear you. The content changes. The cycle stays the same.
That cycle is what we work on.
Who I Work With —
I work with couples and partners who are committed to doing real work together. That might look like:
Partners who have been having the same fight for years and want to finally understand what is actually driving it.
Couples navigating a major transition: a move, a career change, a loss, the arrival of children, a new relationship dynamic, or a structure that is evolving.
Partners where one or both people are in the middle of something significant, a coming out, an identity shift, a life that is being rebuilt, and the relationship is feeling the weight of that.
Relationships of all configurations and identities. I work with queer relationships, partnerships exploring or practicing ethical non-monogamy, and relationships whose structure does not follow a conventional script. You will not need to explain or justify how your relationship is built before we can get to the actual work.
Couples where one partner is neurodivergent, whether that is ADHD, high-functioning autism, OCD, or anxiety, and where that dynamic is shaping how you communicate, connect, and misread each other. This is nuanced work and it requires understanding both the neurodivergent experience and the relational patterns that build up around it. I can hold both.
Partners who are seriously considering separation and want to make that decision with clarity rather than in the middle of a crisis.
If you are unsure whether couples therapy is the right level of support for where you are, we can figure that out together on a consultation call.