ENM & Polyamory-Affirming Therapy
Maybe you’re thinking about opening up a relationship and don’t know how to start that conversation. Maybe you’re already polyamorous, or practicing some version of ethical non-monogamy, and you want help with the logistics, the emotions, or the parts of it that are genuinely hard even when the relationship itself is good. Maybe you’re looking for a therapist and you’re tired of the idea of having to explain what polyamory even is before you can get to the actual work.
Any of those is a reason to be here.
Who I Work With —
I work with individuals, couples, and partners across the full range of what ethical non-monogamy can look like: polyamory, open relationships, swinging, relationship anarchy, solo poly, throuples and polycules, monogamish arrangements, and the versions that don’t have a name yet. That includes:
People considering opening up a relationship for the first time and wanting to think it through before they act on it.
Partners already practicing ENM who want a space to work through jealousy, insecurity, or a communication pattern that keeps breaking down in the same place.
Couples or polycules navigating a new partner, a shift in structure, or a rupture that needs real repair.
Individuals who are dating or partnered non-monogamously and want their own space to process what comes up, separate from their relationships.
You will not need to justify your relationship structure to me before we get to work. I take it as a given that there is no one right way to do this.
How I Work —
I don’t have a rulebook for what your relationships should look like, and I’m suspicious of anyone who does. What I bring is training in Internal Family Systems, which is often where jealousy and insecurity actually live and where the real work happens, along with Emotionally Focused Therapy and the Gottman Method for couples and partners who want to understand what’s happening underneath a conflict rather than just get through it.
I’m also a Kink Aware Professional. If your relationships or your sexuality involve dynamics outside the mainstream script, you won’t need to brief me on the basics first.
I’m direct. I’ll ask the question you’ve been avoiding. I will also not make you feel like something is wrong with you for building a relationship that looks different from what you grew up seeing.
Relationship Intensives —
Some relationships need to move faster than weekly sessions allow. Maybe there has been a rupture that needs immediate attention. Maybe you are in the middle of a decision and need space to work through it without waiting a week between sessions. Maybe you and your partners are navigating a structural shift, a new partner, an opening up, a renegotiated agreement, and want dedicated time to work through it together rather than spreading it across weeks. Maybe you want to use a concentrated block of time to go deeper than a standard session makes possible.
Relationship intensives are extended sessions, typically a half day or full day, designed for exactly that. They work for couples, partners, and polycules alike, and can be used as a standalone experience or as a way to accelerate or reset an ongoing therapeutic process.
If an intensive feels like the right fit, bring it up when you reach out and we can talk through what that would look like for you specifically.
The Details —
Individual sessions are $250. Couples and partner sessions are $325. Sessions are 50 minutes and held via telehealth throughout California.
I do not accept insurance. I am happy to provide a superbill for potential out-of-network reimbursement.
I offer a free 15-minute consultation to get a sense of fit before we begin. Both partners are welcome on that call.